要想经营好自己的生活，人就要学会管理自己的负能量。

To manage one's life well, one must learn to manage their negative energy.

而一个人的内心变强，也往往是从管理情绪开始的。

And a person's inner strength often begins with managing emotions.

拿破仑也曾赞叹：能控制好自己情绪的人，比能拿下一座城池的将军更伟大。

Napoleon once praised that a person who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take over a city.

有人说：人生80%的烦恼，都是来自人际关系。

Someone said: 80% of life's troubles come from interpersonal relationships.

诚然，人与人交往，总是少不了这样那样的摩擦、纠纷与烦恼。

Undoubtedly, in interpersonal communication, there are always frictions, disputes, and troubles.

有远见的人，往往不会把目光集中在眼前的一亩三分地和人际关系上，他们更注重提升自己。

People with foresight often do not focus their attention on the small piece of land and interpersonal relationships in front of them. They are more focused on improving themselves.

而当你有了真正想追求的东西，一切烦恼都变得不足轻重，你也会搭建起属于自己向上的能量场。

And when you have something you truly want to pursue, all your troubles become insignificant, and you will also build your own upward energy field.

情绪管理专家罗纳德博士曾说过一个结论：

Dr. Ronald, an expert in emotional management, once said a conclusion:

暴风雨般的愤怒，持续时间往往不超过12秒钟，爆发时摧毁一切，但过后却风平浪静。控制好这12秒，就能缓解负面情绪。

Stormy anger often lasts for no more than 12 seconds, destroying everything when it erupts, but then it becomes calm. By controlling these 12 seconds well, negative emotions can be alleviated.

当情绪上头时，不妨深吸一口气，给自己12秒时间。

When emotions are high, it's worth taking a deep breath and giving yourself 12 seconds.

到嘴边的气话不说，伤人的动作不做，这样就可以规避很多不必要的冲突。

Not saying angry words or doing hurtful actions can avoid many unnecessary conflicts.

有时候，负能量来的快，消散的也快。稳住一开始的12秒，也就稳住了整个人生。

Sometimes, negative energy comes and dissipates quickly.Stabilizing the first 12 seconds also stabilizes the entire life.