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What’s a common mistake people make in their 30s?30多岁的人们容易犯怎样的错误？

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LavenderplatteStay in unhealthy toxic relationships.停留在不健康的人际关系之中。

BeetinI'd add to that list:我想再加几个进去：

Staying in unhealthy toxic relationships.停留在不健康的人际关系之中。

Jumping into new relationships / marriage because you think you are getting 'too old'因为觉得自己“太老了”，就急着进入一段新的关系或者新的婚姻

Letting healthy relationships die due to focusing on work/self因为把注意力集中在工作或者自己身上，而让健康的人际关系慢慢消失

Not jumping into relationships because you had bad dating experiences in your 20's (some people do get much better)因为二十多岁的时候有过惨痛的恋爱经历，而不敢进入一段新的关系

30's make every mistake in the book. I'd say the overarching theme is "making relationship decisions due to focusing on avoiding/meeting/holding onto milestones by a certain age" (I can't be a divorcee at 34, I have to be married by 34, I need to start a family in the next two years, I'm too old to start dating again)三十多岁的人们会把书里的每种错误都犯一遍。要我说，其中的共性就是“为了避免/迎接某个年龄的里程碑而做出亲密关系的决策”（我不能当一个34岁离异的人，我必须得在34岁结婚，我得在两年内组成一个家庭，我年纪太大了不应该再约会了）原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处

theresitesRomanticizing your 20s and fearing your 40s. (live where you are)把你20多岁时的时光浪漫化，然后恐惧你40多岁时的样子。（要活在当下）原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处

iamnottheuserThis is so good. So easy to romanticize the past and fear the future. Life is organic and so are we. We will keep changing and often times in a good way (stronger, wiser, more confident etc.). I'm so happy to be who I am at 37.这句话说得太对了。浪漫化过去并恐惧未来是一件很容易的事儿。生活是个有机体，我们自己也是。我们会不断地改变，并且通常都是往好的方向去改变（更强壮，更聪明，更有自信，等等）。我对于37岁的自己很满意。

ledger_manMy 30s have been soooo much better than my 20s and I still have 3 years of them left. Romanticizing my 20s - not a problem ha. I do miss my 20s body’s ability to bounce back though!30多岁的我和20多岁的我相比简直强了太多，并且我还有三年的时光才奔四呢。把20多岁的时光浪漫化，确实没问题。我确实怀念20多岁时自己能马上恢复回来的身板！

morningsaystoidleonBill Burr had a great line about that in one of his podcasts. Paraphrasing, but:Bill Burr在他的播客里说过这样一句很棒的话：

I'm gonna be 55, but I learned a long time ago that when I'm 65, I'll wish I was 55. So I can spend this year wishing I was 45 or 35, or I can think about that 65-year-old and do him a favor. It's not perfect, but it's the only game in town.我马上就55岁了。但是很久之前我就明白了一个道理，那就是等我65岁的时候，我就会希望自己还是55岁的样子。所以今年我既可以怀念自己45岁或者35岁的时光，也可以想想自己65岁的时候是什么样，然后给65岁的自己一个人情。虽然还不完美，但也没别的能挑。

Affectionate_Item_51Comparing their lifestyle to other 30-somethings拿自己的生活方式和别的三十多岁的人相比较。原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处

ThunderBobMajerleThis is a good one. Your peer’s success can seem perfect from afar and make you feel inadequate.这句话说得很好。你的同龄人的成功，从远处看可能很完美，可能会让你觉得不平等。

But if you sit down and talk with them you will learn all sorts of shortcomings and difficulties in their life that will make you appreciate something about yourself and your situation.但是如果你坐下来和他们谈谈，你就会明白他们人生中的那些缺点和困难，这会让你对自己和自己的状态心怀感激。

In other words we all just out here tryna function换句话说，我们都在挣扎着当个正常人。

Mission_Hurry9191“We often compare our everyday to everybody else’s highlight reel.”“我们经常”

chemical_sunsetI’ve said before that by our 30s, most people have faced some sort of tragedy or severe hardship in their lives. If they don’t, they’re very lucky. It’s really important to appreciate the good but also acknowledge that a certain amount of bad is inherent to being human. Our attitude is often easier to change than the situation.我之前说过，等到三十多岁的时候，我们绝大多数都会在生活中经历某种悲剧或者严重的困难。如果有人还没有的话，那么他们就非常幸运了。要感激生活中的好事，同时也要承认，作为一个人类，遇见一定程度的坏事是很自然的。比起客观情况来说，我们的态度确实是更容易改变的。

spong3In my 20s our playing field felt a little more even. In my 30s I’m really seeing how much of a head start my peers whose family had money really got. Their parents paid for their education, gifted their kids generous down payments for houses, and some have inherited things like houses and farms and businesses that they’re now managing “on the side”. Meanwhile I’m resuming my student loan payments next month . But the truth is I’m doing OK!20多岁的时候，我们的差距还没有那么大。等到我30多岁的时候，我才真正发现那些家里有钱的同龄人们究竟站在多么领先的起跑线上。他们的家长可以承担他们的学费，可以给他们的孩子买房时拿出慷慨的收腹，并且有些人还有继承的遗产，比如房子，农场和企业等等可以让他们“副业”打理的事情。与此同时，我还在还下个月的学生贷。但事实是我过得还不错！

Mans_Got_CheaksThinking they are too old. Never too late to switch career paths or look for a new relationship or start taking care of your health.觉得自己年纪太大了。不论是换个职业，还是开始新的关系，还是开始关注你自己的身体健康，现在都永远不算太迟。

twooitTHIS. 38 years old and at 36 I changed careers. Ended up with a substantial salary increase, went from a high stress work environment to a borderline 0 stress work environment, have amazing coworkers, enjoy going to work and have more time off. Best of all was my pension and years of service went with me.太对了。我今年38岁，在36岁那年我换了个工作。结果我的薪酬得到了显著的提升，从压力极高的工作环境变成了几乎毫无压力的工作环境，我的同事都特别好，我很享受去工作这件事，并且我的闲暇时间也变长了。而且我的养老金和工作时间都跟着我一起转了过去。

Everyone’s life is completely unique. Doesn’t matter if you’re 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, etc. It’s never too late to change your life for the better.每个人的生命都是完全独一无二的。这和你今年20岁，30岁，40岁，50岁，60岁还是70岁都没关系。想要让你的生活向更好的方向改变，那么什么时候都不迟。

The biggest piece of advice I can give a younger person is don’t try to change everything at once. You’ll end up overwhelmed and lose motivation. Change is a slow and gradual thing. Pin point what makes you least happy and change that first, then move on to the next. Don’t focus on the big picture. Focus on your next few steps. Before you know it you’ll have walked miles.我能给年轻人的最重要的建议，就是别一下子去尝试所有东西。你会被水淹没，不知所措，从而失去动力。改变是一个缓慢的、渐进的过程。把让你最不开心的那件事找出来，然后先改变这件事，然后再去改变下一件事。别总是盯着大方向，要盯着你接下来的几步看。这样在你回过神来之前，你就已经走了很远了。

sparkplug86Left a miserable 16 year job at 35; been promoted twice in less than two years. Neve been happier35岁那年，放弃了一份干了16年的恶心人的工作。不到两年之内晋升了两次。从来没这么开心过。

jcho430Taking care of your health is . Get into shape be healthy and getting your shit together. Agreed最重要的就是照顾好你的健康。保持好身材，身体健康，照顾好自己。同意

af1293I’ll be 30 at the end of this year. I just started taking courses at my local community college to get into a two year program. Best case scenario I’ll be done with everything and able to start my career by 32 and that’s absolute best case scenario. Probably be closer to 33 or 34. I feel behind in life but all I can do now is keep working towards my goals and they’ll be done in no time.今年年底我就要30岁了。我刚开始在这里的社区大学上课，准备学一个两年的项目。最好的情况就是我能妥善处理好一切，然后在32岁那年开始我的新职业，这绝对就是最好的情况了。可能要到33/34岁才行。虽然我感觉在人生的跑道上落后了，但是我现在能做的就只有继续向我的目标努力，目标马上就会实现的。