《礼记》有言：“恶言不出于口，忿言不反于身。”

The Book of Rites states: "Evil words do not come from the mouth, and angry words do not turn against the body."

任由自己说出气话，别人的忿语也会加诸到你身上来。

Allow yourself to speak out in anger, and the anger of others will also be directed towards you.

所以与人相处，比起争锋相对，唇枪舌剑，温言细语往往更有利于躲避灾祸，解决问题。

So, when interacting with others, it is often more beneficial to avoid disasters and solve problems than to engage in confrontations.

说话柔软，并非刻意讨好，而是为了大事化小，小事化了。

Speak softly, not deliberately to please, but to turn big things into small ones.

论语中有君子九思，其中之一便是“忿思难”。

In the Analects, there are nine thoughts of a gentleman, one of which is "indignant thinking is difficult.".

急则有失，怒而少智，生气的时候，多需要冷静下来考虑后患。

Urgency leads to loss, anger leads to lack of wisdom. When angry, it is important to calm down and consider potential consequences.

毕竟许多时候，一句话可成事也可败事；一句话可暖人也可伤人。

After all, many times, one sentence can lead to success or failure; A sentence can warm or hurt people.

所以无论情绪如何、起伏多大，都要把握说话的尺度。

So no matter how emotions and fluctuations are, it is important to grasp the scale of speech.

与其以声夺人，以理压人，不如放下身段，避免碰撞，在温言细语中将人与人之间的冰山融化。

Instead of using sound to distract people and reason to suppress them, it's better to let go of your body, avoid collisions, and melt the iceberg between people in gentle language.

有道是：“良言一句三冬暖，恶语伤人六月寒。”

As the saying goes, "A good word brings warmth in three winters, while a wicked word hurts the cold in six months."

收起无谓的棱角，拔掉身上多余的刺，给他人留足温暖，才能给自己积累人缘和福报。

Putting aside unnecessary edges, pulling out excess thorns on the body, leaving enough warmth for others, can accumulate popularity and blessings for oneself.